Are there signs your partner is sabotaging you?
Perhaps your partner and yourself used to be happy in your relationship, but you noticed a shadow of unhappiness hovering around them later whenever you two are together.
And you’re sure that it has everything to do with your relationship.
Do you feel like they’re trying to create more distance between both of you with each passing day?
They avoid you and use the excuse of not having time whenever you’re around them and want to start a conversation.
They don’t reply to your texts or answer your calls either.
Their excuse is that they’re busy.
With time, you’ll notice that a huge void has formed between you, and it’ll sadden you because both of you were happy together and clicked so well.
The most painful part of this realization is that you don’t even know why your relationship is falling apart.
Is the scenario painted above similar to what you’re going through?
It means that your partner is sabotaging you.
Now that you can put a name to what’s going on in your relationship, I’m sure you want to know more signs your partner is sabotaging you to be sure.
I got it covered for you.
Outlined below are some of the most obvious signs your partner is sabotaging you.
Let’s get started.
6 Obvious Signs Your Partner Is Sabotaging You
1. They fault you
Ideally, you and your partner should be each other’s support system in a healthy relationship, and no matter how difficult the situation is, you need to have each other’s backs.
During winning times, you cheer for each other, and when the need arises, you criticize each other in a healthy way.
In a healthy relationship, when your partner eats a meal you prepared and finds some faults, they’ll tell you about it, point out the flaws, and still tell you how to improve your cooking next time.
This is an example of healthy criticism.
But if your partner is sabotaging you, they’ll only tell you about the faults in the meal.
They’ll conveniently omit what you can do to be better at cooking that particular meal or cooking generally.
And they won’t miss any opportunity to rub it in that you can’t prepare a so-so meal well, thereby crushing your confidence.
Can you see the difference?
2. They refuse to talk about the negative emotions they feel
As humans, it’s very normal to have different emotions at different times, including negative and positive emotions.
Have you ever tried to communicate with your partner whenever they’re on the wrong side of the emotional spectrum to know how they feel?
Do they ignore your questions or choose not to answer at all?
That’s a sign that they’re sabotaging you.
If you’re in a healthy relationship, your partner won’t hesitate to open up to you whenever they feel unhappy, frustrated, doubtful, angry, or anxious.
Your partner will naturally believe that talking with you will take most, if not all, of the negative feelings away.
Your partner’s refusal to talk about their feelings means they do not want to come out of the situation or solve the issue.
It may also be that they have lost interest in you and the relationship, so they see no need to share their feelings with you.
3. They don’t invest their energy in your relationship
Have you noticed that your partner has become busy lately and claims not to have time to address the issues plaguing your relationship?
They create time for everything else but don’t have time whenever it comes to your relationship.
Your partner is simply sabotaging you.
Be it a friendship or a romantic relationship; every relationship needs to be nurtured and cared for.
Without proper care, enough time, and good nurturing, such a relationship will die.
And your relationship is not exempted from this.
Some of the simple signs that your partner is not interested in your relationship anymore are:
Not wanting to spend time with you
Not being there when you need them
Their lack of eagerness to sit with you and trash any issues you’re having in your relationship
It can be that they’re shying away from investing time in the relationship because they feel that you’re not a good match for them.
4. They bear grudges against you
You need to start accepting the fact that there’s no perfect relationship anywhere.
Every relationship has its ups and downs.
Even though we love our partners, we have different opinions on different topics.
As a result, we fight with them sometimes and invariably bear grudges against them for some time.
But that’s not a problem.
It becomes disturbing when your partner has a problem with practically everything you do.
It’s a big red flag.
Do they snub you and choose to hold on to their anger when you go to meet them to sort things out?
They’re sabotaging you in that relationship.
If left unchecked, it can give rise to poor communication and frequently delayed conflict resolution, which will affect your relationship negatively.
You don’t expect your partner to be happy completely when they’re fighting with you.
5. They don’t fulfill their promises
Promises are meant to be kept and not broken, no matter how little they may seem.
Has your partner formed a habit of breaking their promises to you, promises they made of their own free will and not under duress?
If it has become a norm, it doesn’t speak well of your relationship.
Your partner is sabotaging you.
But you can let them off the hook if it happened just once for unavoidable reasons.
A promise has to be kept; if they constantly don’t keep their promises, they’re pushing you away.
6. They magnify your imperfections
Everyone has at least one flaw.
Nobody is perfect.
But as the saying goes, “Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.”
Something can be beautiful to someone but ugly to another person simultaneously.
When you’re in love, you overlook your partner’s flaws.
After all, there’s a saying that “Love covereth all sins.”
No matter their imperfections, they’re perfect for you.
However, there is trouble in paradise when the reverse is the case in your relationship.
You’ll keep having disagreements over the tiniest things, and they’ll keep pointing out how flawed you are.
I think that type of relationship is toxic and is aimed at upsetting your mental and emotional health balance.
It’s not a good place to be at all.
They’re sabotaging you in the relationship.
Conclusion
Can you relate to any or some of the signs listed above?
It means that you’re in a relationship where you’re being sabotaged without even knowing it.
Or you had an idea but weren’t sure.
Have a heart-to-heart discussion with your partner about it.
If you don’t see the conversation going positively, you should consider coming out of such a relationship.