“Why do guys only want to sleep with me?”
At some point in time in their lives, many women have had the experience of being approached by guys with the intent of having sex alone.
However, the question above only crosses your mind when you notice that it has become a pattern to attract only guys who want to sleep with you.
Perhaps you are also wondering why it seems that despite your best efforts, all the guys who show interest in you only want sex and nothing else.
It’s a frustrating state to find yourself in, especially if you actually desire something more than sex.
Probably, it even makes you sad that you seem to be regarded by guys as their “plug” for sex.
You may have spoken to people about it, asked questions on Quora, and read articles on Google, just to find out the reason why guys don’t seem to take you seriously.
Are you the problem, or is it just the guys?
This article aims to show you the various reasons why you may attract guys who only want to sleep with you to help you identify why it is happening to you.
Why Do Guys Only Want To Sleep With Me?
1. The problem is with the guy
Sometimes, you are not even responsible for the reason guys are attracted to you.
Most of the time, there are certain physical features that guys find attractive.
If you possess these features, you may just end up being sought after by many guys for just sex only.
Guys are understandably more attracted to more attractive ladies, however, the reason for the attraction may not be something permanent and meaningful.
They may just need you to add another notch to their bedpost, another monument to their prowess at getting the women they want.
Ideally, you would think that being very attractive will make the guys want to stay.
However, it is not like that, most times.
For any guy to want to stay and create something meaningful with a woman, he has to be attracted by something more than physical attributes, and if you are too attractive, he finds it hard to look past it.
For many other guys, it may just be a personal indoctrination over the years to look for casual flings with women instead of love.
For all these, you are not responsible, and you can only exercise your good judgment in deciding whether to go along with it or not.
2. You are looking for love in the wrong places
There is this nice saying about love being found anywhere.
I believe this to an extent.
However, some places may give you a hard time before finally producing what you want.
These places are bars, clubs, dating apps, and sites that are dedicated mainly to hookups and casual flings.
Most guys on these sites and at these locations are mainly looking for a one-night stand.
They will just assume that you are also in search of casual flings as well.
Don’t get it twisted, some people end up meeting the love of their lives this way, but you can’t base your hope on the positive outcome of just a few people.
Try finding love the “old-fashioned” way by meeting new people and making friends at social events and activities that interest you.
Go out and have fun, participate in programs, and volunteer for projects you believe in.
You will meet interesting people this way and maybe someone who would later mean more than a friend to you.
3. You have a flirty and suggestive vibe about you
Sometimes, it’s not the guys that just want sex from you.
It is you that gives them the vibes that you may want them to sleep with you.
If you really want a meaningful relationship, you need to avoid making sexual jokes every time.
You should stop telling every guy that shows interest in you about your sexual experience and desires.
Guys take such conversations as you dropping hints that you only want sex too.
You may also need to avoid wearing suggestive dressings on dates.
This is not because you want to act like a prude.
You should do this because you want to ensure that he doesn’t make any unwanted moves on you.
4. You don’t clearly define your expectations from the start
This is very important.
Most times, it is better to be clear on what you want before engaging in any form of interaction with a guy.
Be clear on the kind of relationship you desire.
If you don’t come clean on what you want from a relationship, you may only attract guys that only want to sleep with you.
Even if you are planning on going about your search for love in the “modern” way using dating apps and sites, you need to state what you want clearly on your profile.
This will it easier for you to meet someone whose desires coincide with yours.
5. Your dressing gives off the vibe
In recent times, ladies have emphatically demonstrated their right to dress whichever way they want.
It’s really not a bad thing because no one should be harassed because of their dressing.
However, your dressing passes a message about you.
It tells guys and people in general what to expect from you.
In the same way, some people can decide how successful an investment banker is based on how he dresses, a guy can also make deductions on what a girl wants from him through her dressing.
When guys see you dressed in sexy and revealing attires, they believe that you are interested in a serious relationship and make efforts to take advantage of that fact.
Your outward appearance says a lot about you.
Whether what it says is true or not, is a question only you can answer.
6. You do not set clear boundaries
Boundaries are very important, not only geographically but also in relationships.
One of the reasons you only attract guys that want to sleep with you may be because you don’t set clear boundaries before date night.
Setting mental boundaries before meeting any guy will help you control the outcome of the encounter.
When things seem to be going beyond what you want, you may need to stamp your foot down and make the boundaries clear to the guy.
Going on a date without already putting your mental boundaries in place may end up with you being directed to the destination in the guy’s mind.
7. You don’t follow your instincts
Most times, your instincts about a guy may be ringing alarms.
It is important that you follow your instincts.
One of the reasons why it may seem like you are attracting guys that only want to sleep with you is that you ignore your instincts when it tells you that s guy is only after sex with you.
You choose to believe you are just reading unnecessary meaning into matters because he appears to be the perfect guy.
Sometimes, guys can be so single-minded that they will pretend to love you until they get to sleep with you.
If your instincts tell you he is looking for sex, he probably is.
Heed your instincts and avoid finding out.
Final Words
These are the reasons guys only seem to approach you for sex.
What do you do about it?
The first thing you need to do is ensure that you know what you want in a relationship.
Then, you need to be bold and strong enough to reject anyone who wants you to settle for less than what you want and deserve.
Cheers to finding the right person in the future.