People go into relationships in search of different things.
For some, it’s for companionship, while for some it’s to satisfy their urge for intimacy.
I can’t fault anyone for their choices.
But what I know is that each party in a relationship should have a full understanding of why they are going into a relationship.
What some men want to do is string girls along without the plan to take things to the next level.
For these types of men, marriage is never an immediate plan. In fact, some never want to get married.
This is rather unfair to their partners who want to get married, but are instead getting led on.
It is rather unfair to go into a relationship with the mere intention of playing around while the other person is hoping for something more stable.
In my years of experience, I’ve seen friends unwittingly fall into situationships.
Getting out of it was unbelievably heart wrenching.
For someone who has watched from the sidelines for quite a while, I noticed some recurring patterns which sadly my friends failed to see.
Without being extra careful about what goes on in your relationship. One could miss these signs.
Although the signs are inexhaustive, I’ve narrowed them down to the most recurring ones.
This blog post will discuss 8 signs that show he doesn’t want to get married.
8 Signs He Doesn’t Want to Get Married
Here are some of the signs you’d notice when a man doesn’t want to get married:
1. He Never Talks About Getting Married
The fact that he never talks about getting married is a sign that he doesn’t want to get married.
You’ll convince yourself that his reasons for avoiding marriage talk are in a bid to take things slow.
It’s okay to take things slow, but if you’ve been together for a reasonable time frame and there’s no sign of things getting serious forthcoming.
It might just be the sign that you need
I’ll, however, advise that instead of making hasty conclusions, ask him for you to be sure of his intention.
Why? Because a man avoiding marriage conversation could be due to various reasons like fear of commitment, bad marriage experience, societal expectations, he doesn’t seem to love you enough for marriage, or he simply isn’t ready for marriage.
Therefore, the key is to openly communicate.
Let him know what you want, and if your intentions don’t align, it’s time to call it quits.
If you desire to be married, you don’t have to wait for something that might never happen.
2. He Gives Excuses
Men are very open about what they want.
If he sees a future with you and wants to get married, he’ll never hide or give excuses. He’ll simply lay out his cards.
If you notice that he always comes up with different excuses each time you bring up marriage discussions. He’s simply not ready.
A man who wants to get married to you won’t wait for you to initiate such a conversation; he’ll handle it himself.
Also, if his reason is due to fear of commitment or lack of interest in marriage, and he shows no sign of working on his fears, it simply means he isn’t as eager as you to get married.
You don’t need to force him or talk him into having interest, as he might turn on you in marriage.
Girl!
When people show you who they are, better believe them.
3. He Avoids Wedding
People who are looking to get married soon love to attend weddings to take notes and just relish in what would soon be their lives.
They pick out ideas on things to do or avoid in their.
So, when a man is generally not so excited for other people during their wedding or hates to attend weddings, it could mean that he’s not ready for his own.
4. He Doesn’t Like to Hang Out With Married Friends
This saying never runs out of style.
Show me your friends, and I’ll tell you who you are.
More often than not, the company a person keeps influences them.
If your man prefers keeping single friends and hanging out with them, he might see no reason to want to be married.
On the other hand, if he has a mix of married and single friends, he already has something to look up too.
Seeing all the love a married friend gets, and some of the benefits enjoyed in marriage, could give him the push to want to give it a shot, also.
However, hanging out with his single friends could potentially lead him to believe that being single is enjoyable, acceptable and even desirable.
5. He Isn’t Interested in Future Plans
Another sign that men who don’t want to get married exhibit is that they show absolutely no interest in your future plans.
When a man wants to get married to you, he’s eager to know your plan for the future, so that he’ll know how to make plans around it.
I remember one of my friends dated a man who always deflected any conversation bordering on the future.
Each time my friend talked about marriage or any of her long-term plans, this guy would go quiet and in the same breath start talking about how he just wants to have fun and be about his business. Y.O.L.O. was his favourite thing to say.
I’m glad it didn’t take my friend a long time to figure things out; she’s married now, while her ex still shows no sign of settling down.
If you’ve noticed this in your man, don’t get caught up. Move on, your time is precious.
6. He Never Gives a Definite Response When You Ask
As I said earlier, men are simple people. Mostly a few words.
So, if you notice that he goes flat whenever marriage talks come up, he’s definitely not ready or doesn’t want to get married.
Sometimes, men like this often hide under responses such as I’m not ready, can we talk about this another time, I need things to change in my life, everything is so good, ” or ” why bring this up.
All these are red flags aimed at making you feel like you are overbearing or overreaching.
If he truly wants some things to change in his life (say, searching for a good-paying job, anger management, etc.) and he values and wants to get married to you, he’ll let you know.
He’ll tell you why he’s holding back, also, indulge your patience till he achieves it, but if he never gives a concrete answer, he simply doesn’t want to get married.
7. He Won’t Make Your Relationship Official
Relationship is the foundation upon which marriage is built.
A man who refuses to make your relationship official by giving you a label isn’t ready to get married to you.
What men like this do is to make you feel for asking that important question, “What are we?”
Inasmuch as a lot of women have been shamed for taking the lead to ask this very important question, it is important that you don’t feel discouraged.
A man who wants to marry you won’t waste time labelling you as his fiancée.
If a man says he doesn’t want to make your relationship official, he is simply saying he doesn’t want any relationship with you or marry you; he just wants companionship.
8. He Doesn’t Believe in Marriage
“We have something great going on, why do we need a piece of paper to tell us we are married?”
Men who make these types of statements are opportunists.
They want all the benefits that come with being married without wanting to get married.
A man who refers to marriage as just a piece of paper doesn’t want to marry you.
Don’t make it a point of duty to change his mind.
A man knows exactly where his heart belongs.
If his words or actions imply that he doesn’t believe in marriage, it’s either you learn to be okay with that realisation or go be with someone who wants marriage just like you.
9. He Proposed But Doesn’t Want to Move to the Next Step
Don’t let a man turn you into Lord of the Rings.
If he proposed to you and hasn’t discussed wedding plans, he’s not ready to get married to you.
A man who is ready for marriage won’t want to wait several years to finally settle down with you.
Ideally, wedding plans should follow the proposal.
You might want to reevaluate things if that is not the case with you.
CONCLUSION
In conclusion, signs that a man doesn’t want to marry include a lack of belief in marriage, he hates attending weddings, refuses to make your relationship official, etc.
When a man exhibits any or a combination of these signs, take it for what it is -he’s not ready to get married.