Having a crush can be a very awkward business.
It becomes even more awkward if your crush knows how you feel but shows that they don’t care through their actions.
Awkward and difficult as it is, it is something that almost everyone has to deal with occasionally.
When I was younger, I had a crush on a girl so strong that I would do silly things when she was around me, and I kept wondering why I couldn’t keep a lid on it.
I could have done anything to be around her, but the only interest she ever showed in me was to laugh at my silly actions around her.
The saddest thing was; I couldn’t tell if she was laughing because she found me funny or silly.
She was the prettiest girl I had ever seen, and I just couldn’t help myself until…
I did help myself.
I made some changes in my activities and my life that made me get over her fast.
I will be sharing these changes and some others in this article.
If you are in the same shoes, I found myself in back then, hop on and let’s go on a life-changing ride!
Here are seven ways to get over a crush that ignores you.
How To Get Over A Crush Who Ignores You in 7 Easy Ways
1. Focus on something else
Instead of spending time obsessing over a crush that ignores you, it is essential that you find something else to focus on.
To truly move on, you need to start doing things you love.
If you don’t have a hobby, you must find something you love doing.
You can write, paint, dance, sing, or even play games with friends.
You may also choose to find a project to volunteer on.
This way, you will actually be doing something worthwhile rather than moping over someone who didn’t reciprocate your feelings for them.
2. Learn to ignore them
Ignoring a crush who first ignored you is one of the most effective ways of getting over them.
Remember the girl I crushed on?
I learned something in school that helped me handle the situation perfectly.
In my high school physics class, Newton’s third law of motion took on a different meaning when I had a crush on the girl who ignored me.
“For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.”
These evergreen words of Sir Isaac Newton changed my Life… Forever!
I realized that the “equal and opposite reaction” for ignoring is ignoring, too, and that’s what I did.
I learned to pretend she didn’t exist and ignored her whenever we were in a group.
Ignoring her meant I didn’t do the silly things I usually did around her.
Ignoring a crush is hard at first.
However, it gets easier as you continue to practice it.
You must note that your crush may not be interested in you, and spending more time with them may get you deeply hurt.
3. Socialize with new people
Going out and meeting new people is an excellent way to get over a crush that ignores you.
Going out comes with a guarantee that you will meet new people who may even be more interesting than your crush.
It will also help you make new friends that are probably not connected to the crush you are trying to get over.
There are so many ways to meet new people.
You only need to be open to starting conversations with people you feel are interesting enough.
However, I must sound a note of warning…
Don’t go around making friends with just anyone.
I am not asking you to be picky but choose the people you talk to with care.
4. Improve your values
You probably think you don’t have control over who you crush on.
You are right, to an extent.
You don’t control who you crush on, but your values determine who you find attractive.
So, what do you value in the opposite sex?
Do you put much stock in physical attributes?
If physical attributes are what you find most attractive in a crush, you may need to change this a little.
In addition to physical attributes, you may need to include things like kindness, intelligence, emotional intelligence, and tolerance.
Including other attributes in your values will help you overcome a crush that has ignored you, especially if they possess none of these additional attributes.
5. Let go of anger and jealousy
You may feel angry and jealous when you see your crush paying attention to other people.
This is a completely understandable reaction to rejection.
However, you must let go of these feelings to truly get over your crush.
Holding on to these feelings may cause insecurity, bitterness, and resentment.
Having these feelings makes it hard for you to ignore or get over the person that has triggered them in you.
They make you aware of everything they do, which isn’t such a great thing for your mental health.
For the sake of your mental health, you must let go of anger and jealousy.
Journaling is one proven method that helps unpack the pain and releases you into a higher version of yourself.
Your feelings are valid but don’t sit in them.
Journal and release it all out.
You deserve to give yourself a wholesome mind.
6. Never forget that you are not to blame for their behavior
It is perfectly normal to feel like your crush is ignoring you because something is wrong with you.
Especially when you see them paying so much attention to other people.
You shouldn’t try to make them like you if they have ignored you consistently.
What you should be doing is moving on.
It is normal to wonder if they would have paid attention to you if you were just a little nicer or if you dressed better.
However, you don’t need to do anything extra to regain your old crush.
You need to move on, and if that involves improving the way you dress, that’s fine, but you must note that you are not doing it because you want to get the attention of your old crush.
Knowing this will help you get closure.
7. Remember that it’s not a relationship
Most importantly, know that it is just a crush and not a relationship.
If your crush ignores you, it’s not a crime.
It simply means that they are not interested in getting to know you, and while that may hurt, they have the right to decide on who they want to relate with.
The most important thing is knowing that there is nothing wrong with you and respecting the choice they have made.
Final words
Crushing on someone that ignores you can be very hard.
However, if you are determined to get over your feelings of hurt and rejection, it is important that you follow the tips above.
They will make it easier for you to move on and prepare yourself for potential relationships in the future.