It’s bad enough that some guy hurt you.
It’s even twice as bad if the guy who hurt you doesn’t care and isn’t sorry for what he did to you.
Follow me as we look at the signs he’s not sorry for hurting you.
6 Clear Signs He Is Not Sorry For Hurting You
1. He doesn’t apologize for his actions
I think that not apologizing for his actions should be the clearest of the signs he is not sorry for hurting you.
He refuses to say sorry to you.
It seems like the words are too heavy to tumble out of his mouth just like that.
This is a common scenario that plays out regularly with different people.
And I don’t understand why it is so.
You see, a man hurt a woman, and he feels that apologizing to her is more like an abomination.
I mean, life is not that hard.
Just apologize and move on already.
But, no.
He’ll choose to drag the issue for as long as it takes, provided that he doesn’t apologize.
Most times, it’s more about his pride.
He feels that he’ll be making himself vulnerable or open to you when he owns up to his mistakes, agrees that he hurts you, and apologizes to you.
2. He makes no attempt to make it up to you
If a guy doesn’t make any attempt to make it up to you after hurting you, it’s one of the signs he is not sorry for hurting you.
There are certain situations men see as ordinary, but to women, they are hurtful.
And to make it worse, when they err in this line, they do not even try to make it up to them.
Such situations include:
- Abandoning you when you were at a low point in your life, e.g., you were going through some tragedy or life crisis.
- Ghosting you suddenly for no tangible reason.
- Zombie-ing you for no reason.
- Benching you, again, for no reason.
- Cheating on you.
When we say that a guy zombied you, it means that he ghosted you out of nowhere and resurfaces after a long time, acting like nothing happened and he didn’t disappear and reappear and tries to get back into your life and expect you to move along with him like he was never away.
Unbelievable but true.
Not only men but there are some people who move this way.
Well, benching means a guy leading you on and making you believe that he’s serious about you and your relationship.
However, in the actual sense, you’re in a queue of ladies who are on a rotation roster for whenever he’s horny or bored.
Terrible.
These are just a few instances of him hurting you, and trust me, for these offenses, a guy hardly tries to make it up to you.
Having to deal with being treated in such a manner is difficult to deal with and move on from.
If all he has to offer after all the water that passed under the bridge is a watered-down apology that he throws out nonchalantly, you’ll be disappointed in him, and rightfully so.
I know that you expect him to accept that what he did is terrible and talk about it.
At least, even if he can’t go into full details, he should brief you.
It’s not too much to ask from someone you were once close to.
3. He cares less about your feelings
When it comes to hurting someone, you don’t get to dictate to someone how they should react to your actions.
You don’t get to decide how they feel about what you did – if they’re hurt by your actions or not.
If they say that your actions hurt them, then they are.
Even if the hurt was unintentional on your part, you should be concerned that they feel hurt and apologize for your role in hurting them.
You can even make it up to them.
Beautiful solution.
Sadly, however, the realities of most women are a direct opposite of what’s portrayed above.
If the guy who hurt you cares less about your feelings, it’s obvious that he’s not sorry for hurting you.
On his own, he decided that his actions were not a big deal or, worse still, justified.
How you feel about it doesn’t matter to him.
He feels that since he didn’t set out to hurt you, the hurt you feel about his actions is entirely your business.
Such a pitiable line of thought!
4. He’s not interested in being a better person
Have you noticed that this guy is not interested in being a better person, if not for himself, but for you?
It’s a red flag which indicates that he’s not sorry for hurting you.
He’s completely unbothered and doesn’t feel any regret or remorse for his actions that led to your getting hurt.
Perhaps he was unavailable emotionally or had a very nasty temper.
Rather than work on these flaws to avoid hurting you again with them, he does absolutely nothing about them.
He may even be bragging about them and planning on unleashing more hurt on you with them.
Now, you won’t tell me that he has any fiber of remorse in him, will you?
No?
I thought so, too.
5. He’s not keen on getting back together with you
In some cases, if a man is genuinely sorry, he’ll want to make things work between both of you.
I also know that there are people (men) who are genuinely sorry and apologize properly but move on with their lives afterward.
For this set of people they don’t want anyone to bear grudges against them.
They want to be free as they move on to another stage of their lives.
But they’re not our focus here.
Our focus is on men who apologize because they want to make things work with you.
Perhaps you ended your relationship with him because he hurt you.
If he values and cares for you, he’ll go to great lengths to apologize to you and save your relationship.
In this context, if he’s not keen on getting back together with you, it’s possible that he’s not sorry for hurting you.
Talking about what happened or what the future holds for both of you will be the last thing on his mind.
Worse still, it may not be on his mind at all.
6. He keeps doing the same thing that hurt you
A typical sign that he’s not sorry for hurting you is that he keeps doing the same thing that hurt you.
He might hurt you, apologize, and the cycle goes on.
But does he stop doing that thing that hurt you even when you point out to him that it’s hurting you?
No.
Does he stop apologizing?
No.
What do I think about that behavior?
Permit me to say that his apologies were never sincere.
If he’s genuinely sorry for hurting you a certain way, he’ll stop doing the thing that hurt you.
He’ll be more calculative about his words and actions and try his best not to tow that path again.
Is that too difficult?
No!
He just doesn’t want to do it because he’s not sorry for hurting you.
What To Do If He’s Not Sorry For Hurting You
When a guy who you love and care about hurts you, it feels like he literally stabbed you in the back and is twisting the knife in there at will.
It makes you flee from any appearance of love, affection, and attention from the opposite sex.
You’re not to be blamed.
When a guy keeps hurting you repeatedly, you shouldn’t give him any more chances in your life.
He’s obviously not sorry for hurting you.
So, why give him another chance?
To get hurt again?
I hope you don’t make that mistake again.
If you’ll ever take him back, he’ll have to prove beyond reasonable doubt that he’ll never toy with your emotions, let alone hurt you.
When he’s not sorry for hurting you, all you need to do is move on from him and his toxicity.
You deserve better.
It’s not easy to move on from hurt and the person who hurt you, especially if you care deeply about them.
Stop fighting the hurt.
Let it flow through and dissipate from your system.
You’ll come out of this situation a stronger and tougher woman, I promise.