Hmmm, this is a huge one.
Your husband being disgusted by you can be one of the most hurtful that can ever happen to you.
Ideally, marriage to the person you love is a beautiful thing.
However, in reality, there is no perfect marriage.
Every marriage has issues they face occasionally.
Sometimes, you can switch from being thankful for your partner to wondering why you even married them in a moment.
But disgust from your husband goes far beyond the realms of the normal issues to expect in marriage.
Here are some of the signs that your husband is disgusted by you.
7 Telltale Signs Your Husband Is Disgusted By You
1. He avoids physical contact with you
This is the most common sign that your husband is actually disgusted by you.
By physical contact, I am not even talking about sex.
If your husband seems to be avoiding the most basic physical contact with you, there is something off with your relationship.
This is especially true if your husband is someone who used to love physical touch.
If your husband used to love cuddling, holding hands, and even making random possessive touches that make you feel wanted, and he stops suddenly, it could be a sign that he is disgusted with you.
As a kid, certain things irritated me.
They were not naturally disgusting; they were just pet peeves, but I always went out of my way to avoid them.
For some husbands, the disgust may be so obvious that they will avoid physical intimacy with you.
For others, they are still involved in the act, but if you are sensitive, you will realize that they can’t seem to stand you even while doing the do.
Sex is not just an act, and when a strong emotional connection is absent in it, it becomes really obvious.
If your husband is disgusted by you, he will avoid initiating physical intimacy and may rebuff you when you initiate it.
Even when he doesn’t rebuff you, he is so mechanical that you can just feel he’d rather be doing something else.
2. He criticizes you too often
Every one of us needs a little criticism because we are not perfect and, hence, can’t always be right.
However, there’s a way that criticism should be handled in relationships.
It is not right for your husband to always find a way to criticize everything you do.
The worst part is when he does it anywhere.
If your husband criticizes you constantly and anywhere, it is first a sign of gross disrespect and could also be a sign that he is disgusted by you.
It is even worse when he doesn’t seem to see anything good about whatever you do.
If you can’t seem to do anything right to your husband, then it is a sign that he is disgusted with you and doesn’t respect your feelings because of this.
If you are going through this, you have my heartfelt sympathy.
Feeling like you are walking on eggshells in your own home is one of the worst ways a woman can ever feel.
3. He avoids spending quality time with you
So, a friend once asked me if I would rather hang out with the guys or my girlfriend.
I said I would rather hang out with the guys, but the truth was that we were fighting when she asked me the question.
My answer at the time reflected my anger at my girlfriend.
On any other day, I would rather be with my girlfriend than my friends… the two of us on an isolated island, minus King Kong.
A man who truly loves his wife would want to spend time with his wife.
He will not just desire it; he will intentionally make time out of his busy schedule to spend quality time with his wife.
However, when your husband is disgusted by you, he will make the most irrational excuses just to avoid spending time with you.
Even when he is obviously not doing anything else, he will manufacture something that will take him away from you.
If he is no longer interested in spending quality time with you and declines to hang out with you in the most irritable way, it is a sign that he is disgusted by you.
If he would rather hang out with the guys after work, go on solo business trips, or just find any way to stay far from you, it is a sign that he is disgusted by you.
Ooh, he plays with the kids?
But does he spend time with you when the kids are out of the way?
If your answer is no, it is a sign that while your husband is a good dad, he is still disgusted by you.
4. He insults you
There is criticism, and then there is verbal abuse.
Both are really terrible… but verbal abuse is a slower killer.
If your husband begins to use derogatory words on you, it is a sign that he is disgusted by you.
It is just an expression of how he feels about you.
The Bible says, “Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.”
If a man spews out toxic garbage aimed at you, it is definitely an expression of how he thinks of you.
Some guys were trained to believe that women are not so wise.
I have heard this said by several guys, and I seriously wonder if they have mothers and how their mothers will feel after being spoken about like that.
Raising kids in a verbally abusive environment is dangerous because it leaves its marks on them.
The guys I mentioned are primarily from homes where their fathers said such derogatory words to their mothers.
It also may have a long-lasting impact on your mental and physical health because it may be the first step towards physical abuse.
5. He is always angry at you
Even the best marriages have their fair share of conflicts, but why does your marriage feel like a war-torn region?
I am about to tell you one of the major reasons why it feels that way.
If your husband is disgusted by you, almost anything you do will likely get him angry and upset.
And even when you don’t do anything, he still gets angry at you.
Sometimes, you may wonder what he wants from you because nothing you do can please him.
He doesn’t seem interested in your opinions or feelings and complains about everything you do.
If this describes your husband perfectly, you need to start considering the sad reality that he is disgusted by you.
6. He doesn’t look at you the way he used to
When a man is in love, he really doesn’t need to say it before you know it.
Men wear their hearts on their sleeves, and their eyes show everything they don’t say.
One of the not-so-obvious signs that your husband is disgusted by you is the change in how he looks at you.
Gone are those eyes brimming with love and adoration.
He now looks through you like you are not present.
And whenever he looks at you, you feel this icy disapproval in his gaze.
You can tell if a person loves you by how they look at you.
Similarly, if your husband is disgusted by you, how he looks at you will tell you the full story.
7. He doesn’t want to be seen with you
A major sign he is disgusted by you?
He doesn’t want to be seen with you in public.
He avoids any public event requiring him to show up with you, and you may be wondering why because he wasn’t like that in the past.
If he is disgusted by you in private, he would also be disgusted in public.
So, if he avoids you in private, why would he want to be seen with you in public?
It’s sad when your husband, who once used to show you off to the world, suddenly begins to avoid being seen with you in public.
Now that you know how to spot the signs, what do you do about it?
What To Do If Your Husband Is Disgusted By You
Confronting your husband is not the first thing you should do.
It will only make matters worse.
It’s sad that your husband is disgusted by you.
It hurts deeply.
However, you may discover what triggered it by taking time to introspect.
2. Talk to him
It’s hard to talk to someone who feels disgusted by you.
He may try to avoid the conversation, but don’t let him do it.
Talk to him about his feelings.
Let him know that you still care enough about him to want to fix the relationship.
Ask him why he feels like he does, and listen without becoming defensive.
3. Talk to a professional
If talking to him doesn’t seem to work, seeking professional help may be the next step.
A therapist may be able to help you and your husband identify the cause of the issues in your relationship and how to fix them.
Both of you must be ready to take this step together before taking it.
4. Focus on yourself
No matter how difficult things may get in a relationship, you need to focus on yourself.
Care for yourself, show yourself love… You will need it, especially in the rough phases of the relationship.
Find a friend that you can talk to and rely on for support.
Get a new hobby or involve yourself in a new project you are passionate about.
It is hard, but never let your husband’s disgust and inappropriate behaviors affect your self-esteem.
Stay positive… And if you are a praying woman, pray to God.
Prayer has a way of strengthening you.
The fact that you believe that God is out there looking out for you will help you weather your challenges much more easily.
I hope your marriage gets healed and becomes joyful once again.